What happens when it’s just the two of you on the holidays?
Once upon a time.. everyone lived in the same neighborhood and holidays were anticipated for weeks. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter were clamored with activity. The days were spent going from one family members’ home to another. Large gatherings of friends and relatives reminiscing over old stories of the past. Feverish cooking and lots of eating all day. I remember having to save room for the next meal at another family members’ home. Days were spent baking Christmas cookies for weeks prior to the event. The weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas were designed for buying a multitude of presents for friends and family alike. The home I grew up in and where my parents continued to live for years was a modest size home. I still wonder to this day how we all managed to fit at my mom’s kitchen table. My mom always had and still continues to be able to feed a massive amount of people, with leftovers when the dinner was completed. It was organized chaos that worked in perfect harmony.
Today is a different time and place than it was back then. Now the world is smaller and gone are the days of living in the same town for your entire life. Our family is spread across different states. Life continues for everyone with their own families, jobs and obligations. Going home for the holidays is just not always an option and just like you, other family members have their own lives that limit traveling over the holidays. So what happens when it’s just the two of you?
Steve and I have found ways to still make the holidays memorable, just in different ways. The worst thing you can do is dwell over holidays past. After all someday two will become one and you’ll be reminiscing over the time spent now. Here’s my suggestions to creating new holiday traditions and feeling great about the holiday season.
- The Staycation. Steve and I have made an art form out of Staycations. Why stay at home when you can explore the city you live or a nearby town. Splurge on a beautiful hotel, preferably one with a great bar and restaurant. Grab a bottle of wine and yes.. make those holiday cookies.. We rather enjoy them in the comfort of a elegant hotel room.
- Volunteer. Spending your time and resources helping others gives you a feeling of peace and truly represents what the holidays mean. Be thankful for the gifts you have received in this life and pass it on to others. Check with your local churches for holiday meal servings and give back to others less fortunate. Take a name off the holiday gift tree and purchase gifts for a needy child. Food pantries during the holiday season will need to be filled and since your not cooking for an army yourself, spread cheer to others.
- Worship. I realize not everyone worships the same or even to the same God, but if you believe than acknowledge your faith. Recognize that times are different in all aspects of life now. Holidays are not about buying and trying to find the perfect gifts. The holidays have nothing to do with money and presents. Realizing this truth makes you take a different perspective on your situation.
- Decorate. Even if no one is going to see my Christmas tree, I’m going to have one. Steve and I are going to decorate the tree and I will still play my holiday music. Steve’s going to fight with the lights, while I sip on a glass of wine.
- Reminisce. Talk about those old stories, but not in a depressing way. Uplift yourself and create new memories just the two of you. Pick up the phone and talk to your family. Pull out the old photo albums and let them make you smile. Take new photos and upload them online. Show them proudly and see how others are spending their day. Comment- Like- Share.. If you enjoy video chatting, then the holidays are a great time to be apart of chaos elsewhere.
The Holiday season is what you make of it.. I titled this blog post surviving the holiday season when it’s just the two of you, but maybe that title is too sad. There’s nothing to survive if you go into the season with the right attitude, you may find the best holidays are still ahead of you…
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